I believe we can only achieve the highest goals that our own self-esteem or self-image allows us to. We are born into this world with a multitude of thoughts, words and images pounded into our heads by friends, family, classmates, teachers and the media. If you grew up poor, you might be inclined to have issues with money or lack thereof. If your parents were overweight, you might have issues with food at an early age. If you were late to mature, you might have issues and insecurities that stem as far back as showering after gym class.
When it comes to personal appearance we all suffer at some point in our lives with our looks, our body and how others perceive us. Most superstar models were picked on in school for being tall, awkward and thin. That big bodybuilder very easily could have been picked on in grade school and vowed never to let that happen again. We look at ourselves in the mirror and see someone totally different. How does this happen? Why does this happen? More importantly, how do we change these negative thought patterns for a happier and more satisfying existence?
If you have read my previous blogs you know my background. I was raised by an overweight mom and a compulsive gambling dad. Watching my mom’s struggle with weight control was painful, and watching my dad prey upon her weakness was more painful. From the subtle comments like, “Let’s take bets on how long your mom stays on this new diet,” to the brutally cruel mental abuse like when she would lose weight and start feeling better about herself and he would say, “You still look like a fat pig.” It gets me emotional just remembering how hard she would cry. These statements, be it from strangers, kids at school or worse, an abusive husband, leaves huge emotional scars. I’m not saying you can’t overcome this. You most definitely can. My mom has and is a healthy beautiful 81-year-old princess. Scar tissue can last a lifetime, and in order to remove it you must do it with surgical precision. In order for it not to come back you must stay clear of what caused it in the first place.
Here is what I’ve learned helping people just like you. If your goal is to get lean and look better than you ever thought possible, you must remove the negative scar tissue that has built up over the years, or in some cases a lifetime. It starts with self-talk. No longer will you say any of the following:
- I just look at food and gain weight.
- I’ve tried everything and nothing works.
- I know what to do, I just don’t do it.
- I hate healthy food.
- I don’t like to exercise.
The list goes on! I know the cruel public is capable of body-shaming us to tears just like my father did hundreds of times to my mom. But that pales in comparison to how much all of us body-shame ourselves with negative self-talk. When that stops, your true journey begins.
If you’re ready, I’m ready. Let’s help each other. Your success is my success!!